I haven't dated much. I didn't date in high school or in my first semester of college. I've always had guys that were friends. I had guys that were interested in me. However, none that I liked well enough to date until middle of freshman year. And while I don't regret dating any of those boys, sometimes I wish that I had never started dating.
They've all been nice enough guys. They weren't horrible. I didn't have any traumatic experiences. But none of them made it into anything that anyone would really call serious. True, I did really care for some of them, but looking back I realize that it wasn't as strongly as I had thought.
Since I entered the dating world I have run across: Mr. Gets Bored Easily, Mr. Insecure Control Freak, Mr. I Want to be With You But I Don't Want to be With You, Mr. Handsy, Mr. Fallen Off the Face of the Planet, Mr. I Am Going to Tell You Everything About Myself Before You Can Even Ask, and Mr. Really Nice Guy Who I Just Didn't Have Anything in Common With.
I haven't dated all of these, but I have either been on a date with, or have had them ask me out.
All of these types of men have made me realize that I do not want to date. I'm done. I am sick and tired of having to deal with this. And being a "Mr. Fixer-Upper" magnet. I can't handle it. So, Mr. Wonderful, whoever you are. You are welcome to come and find me at your leisure. However, you're going to have to be patient with me, because I am not going to jump into any sort of romantic relationship any time soon.
I usually don't comment on blogs. Especially personal ones. But seeing as it's on Twitter, I feel somewhat justified.
ReplyDeleteI dated from before I was in high school. And throughout high school. What you would call "serious" relationships, I suppose. Of varying lengths and levels of "seriousness".
I've also dated throughout college, work and school permitting. Also of varying lengths and levels of "seriousness". Have any of these relationships, casual or otherwise, been exactly the one person I'm looking for in life?
Absolutely not. But I know that because of being involved with people thus far, I now know more accurately when I meet someone that is definitely NOT for me.
So. What I'm saying is, I don't think you should limit yourself by not dating until you find the "right" man. In fact, I'd say that just sets you up to be with the absolute wrong person for the rest of your life, if that's what you're looking for in a relationship.
Also, you're in college. Not many males are going to be looking for that one girl to spend their life with--so even if you are that girl, chances are Mr. Right won't recognize you as such.
Live it up. You'll only be a 20 year old single girl once.
not sure if Ill be making waves here but oh well.. :P
ReplyDeletearon im not sure I agree with you. what is the point in dating someone if you don't plan on being with them for the rest of your life?
The way I see it, there are two options once a relationship starts, marriage or a break up which usually causes intense pain no matter how amicably it ends.
you still have the ability to figure out what you do and don't want in a guy through normal friendships/relationships, not necessarily dating. I suppose its best to not have a past that is filled with guys who you gave a bit of your heart to and they left.
theres my two cents. not saying Im by any means qualified to give you advice but thats ok, its just an opinion.
I'm still praying for you dear, as always. :)
Aron: I am living it up :D I am enjoying my life and figuring out who I am and who I want to become. Thanks for the extra encouragement. (Esp. when Mom is trying to set me up with the sons of her friends, lol!)
ReplyDeleteAshley: Girl, we are on the same page yet again! Thank you for your prayers. I have just given this whole situation to God and am letting him deal with it all. In the mean time I will get to know myself and build friendships. And hey, there is nothing wrong with having a bunch of "big brother" types to protect me from the Mr Wrongs lol!